Find Out Her Name, and Ask

This is an excerpt from a post by Doug Wilson; the full essay can be found here. He discusses the economics of marriage and how men and women have been bamboozled into believing a lie not only about marriage, but the lie's effect on society.

So healthy culture is one in which testosterone is not regarded as a public enemy. A healthy Christian culture is one in which testosterone is not regarded as necessarily resisting the work of the Spirit in our lives. Now the effects of such a testosteronic revival (a great name for a band there, and you’re welcome) will be a potent force. There will be a high standard of morality, and there will consequently be a high incentive for entering into a state of matrimony—as soon as possible, not as late as possible. The women will not resent this because they know that this is the way the world is. They will know that it conforms to God’s creational intent, and that it does not conform to the ideologies of egalitarian feminism. And besides, it is lots better than being abandoned and stranded by the neutered brethren of the limp-wrist.

Chesterton once observed that free love was the first and most obvious bribe that could be offered to a slave. Those who want their “subjects” to be docile and easily manipulated (and I include both civic and ecclesiastical leaders here) do not want to encourage the formation of molecular units that might be resistant to the requirements of the broader collective. This helps explain the friendliness of the state to porn and pot. Whatever other problems might arise, governing the lotus-eaters is an attractive proposition to a certain kind of corrupt ruler.

In short, a band of tightly-knit families is much more difficult to lead than dissolute men are. If the men are leaders in their homes, and are intensely loyal to their wives and children, then they are going to be that much more difficult to lead. At the same time, it really needs be remembered that such a collection, such a society, is the only kind that is really worth leading. They are the only ones who are going anywhere.

Lazy leaders do not want molecular families—they much prefer atomistic individuals. They will pay you to stay by yourself. They will entice you to stay by yourself. They will tell you all kinds of lies, lies driven by their socialistic and leveling envy. They want you to be an enervated and spent force. That is what lies behind all their bribes, all their blandishments, all their downgrades, and all their allowances for your pocket to be an electronic portal for porn-on-demand.

So if you are an unmarried young man, out on your own with a legitimate job, then you need to seriously contemplate joining the resistance. Find out her name, and ask.